So it has been almost 2 years since Steve and I got married. Therefore, I feel it a good time to reflect on marriage and relationships, with reference to my own experiences. I know 2 years isn't very long, but it has been an important 2 years in terms of new experiences and emotions, and in terms of learning how to live with another person without driving them mad (although I'm not sure I have actually achieved this yet!).
When Steve and started dating, I remember being quite scared of being in a committed relationship. I do sympathise with men who get scared about this sort of thing (but only to a certain extent). I suppose some of the fear came from selfishness, because, if I was going to do it properly and be a good other half, I was going to have to think about another person all the time. Not in the sense of being daydreamy about them, but in the practical sense of planning how I would spend my time etc. The other part of the fear came from the little voice in my head that was saying 'what if it all goes wrong? What if we fall out and we can't be friends anymore? What if he ends up thinking what all the other men have in my life? That I am not good enough?
It did not take long at all from when we met to achieveing the status of "dating" "bf/gf" and and from there, the engagement came quickly because we knew we were the ones we wanted to spend the rest of our lives and eternity with. Through the engagement we began to learn more and more about eachother. Its was a great experience but I do not ever want to go through it again. Im happy to have it over with and to have moved on to marriage.
I have all my weird ways and moods that he has to contend with, but somehow (often to my surprise!) it works. I dont know how he does it. I am almost constantly amazed at Steves tolerance and patience with me as we continue to learn and grow from our wonderful new life.
In conclusion, marriage is an amazingly awesome journey and every joy and every challenge that comes with it is every bit worth it. Sorry for the long post, congratulations if you got to the end.
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I have been reflecting on the same topic lately, Sunday will be our 10year anniversary, some moments I'm like wow that's so awesome and some moments I'm like wow I'm so OLD!
Amen - you said it perfectly. :) Happy Anniversary - we love you guys!
Happy Anniversary! You say 2 years isn't alot...but I personally think that the first 2 year are the most important and crucial!!! That is when Tom and I did most of our growing and learning! I agree, marriage is awesome!!! I love it and I love you Katy!!!!
Thanks for your comment! I can't believe you were hospitalized, that's horrible. It's so weird how it effects people differently. A friend of mine had it, and her husband, and they were both feeling better in a weeks time. I feel like I may never feel better. It's so strange being sick this long...I hardly know what to do with myself. Not that I can do much cause I'm so tired anyway! Happy 2 years. I love thinking back over the time that I've been married. Life is awesome when you're in love with your husband, which you clearly are!
Happy Anniversary. It seems like I just barely came to your reception! Isn't it funny how time flies? In a couple years (or what feels like a couple) we will be 40 with kids! We better still be friends. I love you girl.
I really like this post. It's so nice to hear that people's marriages are working out despite troubles and conflicts.
I'm glad you two are happy and congratulations next month on the big 2 years!
Wow thats sooo awesome guys!! You two are such a cute couple too! Todd and I were just talking last night about how cute/good you guys are together! We love having you guys as friends!!
Congratulations on two years! understand what you were saying. I have many fears about relationships as well.
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